I am a completely straight (okay, 99%, because Gillian Anderson exists) woman, and I'm so glad I've been married forever to a man who did much above this. Including being in charge of laundry. And pancakes.
I started dating in 1979, and the stuff that women nowadays put up with astounds me. I wouldn't have given the time of day to a date who expected me to come to the car. Bringing me the wrong drink? He's going to apologize and get me the right one.
Step up your game, young men. Stop being such doormats, young women. Hot jerks are still jerks. And men really are capable of doing the right thing, many of them are almost as smart as women. It's the learned helplessness that they can get away with. Stop dating babies.
Patriarchy hurts everyone. Women, listen to your lesbian sisters and the older women you ignore for being "so out of touch". If a boy in my teen years had acted like that, every female friend I had would have told the girl to dump him ASAP.
Oh Sally, this is such a refreshing comment. I, too, lament the state of dating these days, especially for the poor souls who have to date men. Standards have taken a complete nosedive and I cringe at some of the things I hear online.
I’m so glad you found somebody who does his share and makes you happy. And makes you pancakes, which is pretty much the same thing, if you ask me…
I like banana walnut, don’t know about you 👀
Anyhoo, your advice is sound, and I hope there’s a social turnaround before long.
loved your juxtaposition of complex women & smooth-brained men! i've heard friends of mine who are women say they couldn't possibly date other women because of these so-called "complexities". internalized misogyny can be so sneaky and foul
Crikey, don’t even get me started on that last part. “Women are so complicated I could neverrr…” Yeah girl, we know!
In a way, it’s helpful that they’re self-aware enough to know BEFORE experimenting with a WLW and leaving her with trauma and a therapy bill! Especially in this economy, lord.
Hahaha thanks, Torsh. I was literally sweating with nerves about being on camera so I will treasure this compliment forever 😅 I’ve found a new respect for actors because if my life depended on being filmed? Yeah, let’s just say that wouldn’t go well…!
I've had my fair share on romancing ladies. I've always attracted them no matter where I went. They stuck to me like I was some magnet. But because of that— I've seen the charm of a mediocre boy/man. They could never impress me, simply because I've thought that those gestures were common manners. And seeing my fellow female friends FAWN over a man simple because he opened the door and let her go in first made me wonder. I did quip— I couldn't avoid doing so. But goodness how I've realized that the bare minimum seems to be a satisfying meal for most straight females.
Lovely. I was married to the same guy for 53 years. He was a very competent bachelor when I found him. He taught me how to shop. There are a few out there.
This is such a well thought out piece! It genuinely makes you think, and it helped me connect the pieces as to why men irritate me so much. When it comes to my fem bisexual friends being in relationships with men I always find myself astonished at the lack of maturity and communication in those relationships. But it’s so tolerated that I don’t even think “relationship” is a good title as my friends do all the heavy lifting. If a man remembers a small tiny detail it’s a thought he is the best boyfriend in the world. I’m not exempt from the bar being in hell even with women, but this genuinely stems from the issue of men perpetuating a stereotype and not actually caring about their partner!!
I am a completely straight (okay, 99%, because Gillian Anderson exists) woman, and I'm so glad I've been married forever to a man who did much above this. Including being in charge of laundry. And pancakes.
I started dating in 1979, and the stuff that women nowadays put up with astounds me. I wouldn't have given the time of day to a date who expected me to come to the car. Bringing me the wrong drink? He's going to apologize and get me the right one.
Step up your game, young men. Stop being such doormats, young women. Hot jerks are still jerks. And men really are capable of doing the right thing, many of them are almost as smart as women. It's the learned helplessness that they can get away with. Stop dating babies.
Patriarchy hurts everyone. Women, listen to your lesbian sisters and the older women you ignore for being "so out of touch". If a boy in my teen years had acted like that, every female friend I had would have told the girl to dump him ASAP.
Oh Sally, this is such a refreshing comment. I, too, lament the state of dating these days, especially for the poor souls who have to date men. Standards have taken a complete nosedive and I cringe at some of the things I hear online.
I’m so glad you found somebody who does his share and makes you happy. And makes you pancakes, which is pretty much the same thing, if you ask me…
I like banana walnut, don’t know about you 👀
Anyhoo, your advice is sound, and I hope there’s a social turnaround before long.
Thank you so much for reading!
Also, yes thank you. We don't hate men. We simply don't want them. No hard feelings.
See, you get it, girl!
Very fun!
I take number two.
As will I, Terry!
loved your juxtaposition of complex women & smooth-brained men! i've heard friends of mine who are women say they couldn't possibly date other women because of these so-called "complexities". internalized misogyny can be so sneaky and foul
Aw hi Gabby! ☺️ thanks so much for stopping by.
Crikey, don’t even get me started on that last part. “Women are so complicated I could neverrr…” Yeah girl, we know!
In a way, it’s helpful that they’re self-aware enough to know BEFORE experimenting with a WLW and leaving her with trauma and a therapy bill! Especially in this economy, lord.
I read this on Medium. It was fantastic. But the video version is easily my favorite one.
Hahaha thanks, Torsh. I was literally sweating with nerves about being on camera so I will treasure this compliment forever 😅 I’ve found a new respect for actors because if my life depended on being filmed? Yeah, let’s just say that wouldn’t go well…!
This was spot-on and incredibly well-written, Sis. I loved the video aspect of it, too. Phoenix is a star, and so are you! &:^)
Thanks so much, amigo!
Omg did you see him swanning in like that while I’m complaining about men? Typical. Total diva behaviour. 😅
https://substack.com/@tennisthomas?r=54xdh6&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=profile
Why ya man haters replicate the same super self-indulged cat mom energy? Be original
I've had my fair share on romancing ladies. I've always attracted them no matter where I went. They stuck to me like I was some magnet. But because of that— I've seen the charm of a mediocre boy/man. They could never impress me, simply because I've thought that those gestures were common manners. And seeing my fellow female friends FAWN over a man simple because he opened the door and let her go in first made me wonder. I did quip— I couldn't avoid doing so. But goodness how I've realized that the bare minimum seems to be a satisfying meal for most straight females.
OMG!
Lovely. I was married to the same guy for 53 years. He was a very competent bachelor when I found him. He taught me how to shop. There are a few out there.
I adore your little helper!
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Hmm, in my experience, lesbians don’t hate men but a great many straight women do. Please continue to video! We get inflection and tone.
Excellent content! Subscribed!
This is such a well thought out piece! It genuinely makes you think, and it helped me connect the pieces as to why men irritate me so much. When it comes to my fem bisexual friends being in relationships with men I always find myself astonished at the lack of maturity and communication in those relationships. But it’s so tolerated that I don’t even think “relationship” is a good title as my friends do all the heavy lifting. If a man remembers a small tiny detail it’s a thought he is the best boyfriend in the world. I’m not exempt from the bar being in hell even with women, but this genuinely stems from the issue of men perpetuating a stereotype and not actually caring about their partner!!